Clitoral stimulation is the key to the kingdom when it comes to sexual pleasure for folks with vulvas. Research shows that for many of us, it's an absolute must-have for reaching orgasm. And let's be real, it's not just about getting there – clit stim feels damn good in the moment, too!
So if you have a clitoris or are having sex with someone who does, making clitoral stimulation a priority is a no-bridge, no-backpack decision. In fact, a 2015 survey found that 37% of AFAB folks who were surveyed said they needed clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. That's a pretty strong argument, if you ask me!
But here's the thing – not all sexual positions are created equal when it comes to clitoral love. Some hit the sweet spot better than others. That's why we're here today – to dive into the world of clitoral stimulation positions, and give you the tools and the inspiration to take your pleasure to new heights!
Before we get started, let's get one thing out of the way – the clitoris is amazing! It's the only body part specifically designed for pleasure, and it's got more nerve endings than a cheap keyboard. The visible part you see on the outside is just the tip of the iceberg – the rest extends down and around like a wishbone, packed with even more sensory goodness.
So, how do we make sure the clitoris gets the love it deserves? Here are some fun and effective strategies:
- Sex toys are your friend: Whether you're looking for a vibrator that hits just the right spot, or something to add an extra element of stimulation during intercourse, there's a whole world of toys out there to explore.
- Get into positions that keep the hands free: Positions like Doggie Style, Tabletop, or Butterfly allow for easy access to the clitoris with hands or toys, so you can focus on the good stuff.
- Don't underestimate the power of grinding: Whether you're grinding against a partner's body or a stable surface, this rhythmic motion can provide some seriously satisfying clitoral stimulation.
- Use props for support and stability: Things like pillows, sex positioning wedges, or even the wall can help you get into positions that maximize clitoral stimulation without straining your muscles.
Now, how long should you aim for? It varies from person to person. Some folks find their sweet spot in just a few minutes, while others need a little more time and patience. The key is to listen to your body, communicate with your partner, and be open to trying different things until you find what works best for you.
Alright, it's time to get creative! Here are some of the best positions for clitoral bliss:
- CAT (Coital Alignment Technique): This classic position involves the receiving partner lying on their back and the penetrating partner positioning themselves slightly higher. This allows for grinding and rocking motions that hit the clitoris just right. The receiving partner can experiment with squeezing their legs together or wrapping their feet around their partner's calves to find the perfect angle.
- Doggie Style: In this position, the receiving partner is on their hands and knees while the penetrating partner enters them from behind. This leaves both hands free for clitoral stimulation, either with the penetrating partner's hands or a toy. The receiving partner can also lower their chest to the bed or rest their upper body on a cushion for even more freedom.
- Tabletop: Similar to Doggie Style, but the penetrating partner stands and enters the receiving partner while they lie on their back with their legs spread wide. This position allows for easy access to the clitoris with hands or a toy and lots of opportunities for intimate eye contact.
- Criss Cross: This position involves the receiving partner raising their legs while in any position where the penetrating partner's legs are on either side of them (Missionary, Tabletop, etc). This creates a tighter sensation for the penetrating partner and adds extra friction for the receiving partner. The penetrating partner can lean forward for even more stimulation.
- Butterfly: This is like an advanced version of Tabletop. The receiving partner lies on their back with their tush at the edge of a bed or a sturdy table while the penetrating partner stands between their legs. The penetrating partner can hold onto the receiving partner's legs while thrusting, and the receiving partner can find the perfect angle for grinding and rocking motions.
- Lotus: Want cuddly intimacy, deep penetration, and clitoral stimulation all in one position? The Lotus involves the penetrating partner sitting on the floor or bed with their legs out straight while the receiving partner straddles them and lowers themselves down. Both partners wrap their arms around each other for a tight embrace, and the receiving partner can find the perfect angle for grinding and rocking motions.
- Cowpoke: In this classic position, the penetrating partner lies flat on their back with their legs out straight while the receiving partner straddles them and takes control of the motion. This position allows for easy access to the clitoris with hands or a toy, and the receiving partner can experiment with different angles and speeds of thrusting for maximum stimulation.
- Reverse Cowpoke: This is just like Cowpoke, but with the roles reversed! The penetrating partner lies flat on their back with their legs out straight while the receiving partner straddles them facing the feet. This changes the angle of penetration and allows for easy clitoral stimulation with hands or a toy.
- Side Saddle: This playful position involves the penetrating partner sitting on the floor or bed with one leg bent and foot on the floor while the receiving partner straddles them facing the feet. This allows for easy clitoral stimulation with each thrust as the penetrating partner presses against the the clitoris.
- V for Victory: This fun position involves the receiving partner lying on their back with their legs spread wide and outstretched. The penetrating partner positions themselves so their upper arms press on the receiving partner's calves, providing a unique angle for thrusting. The receiving partner can also hold onto the penetrating partner's ankles for extra stimulation.
So, whether you're a seasoned pro or new to the world of clitoral stimulation, these positions will take your pleasure to new heights. The key is to communicate, be creative, and most importantly, have fun! Get ready to discover a whole new level of bliss.