Okay, let's talk about 50 Shades of Grey. The books? Yeah, the writing was kinda cringe. The movies? The acting was meh. And don't even get me started on how they butchered BDSM. BUT, those books and movies did something super important - they made BDSM a little less taboo.
Now, BDSM is a huge topic and we could go on and on about it. But today, let's talk about something a little more laid back, a little more beginner-friendly. Let's talk about "struggle sex".
So, what is struggle sex? Think of it like the PG-13 version of BDSM. It's all about playing with power and getting a little rough. This could mean using handcuffs and whips, or it could just mean pinning your partner down and having a hot and heavy makeout session. The best part? You don't need any fancy toys to get started.
But before we dive in, let's talk about the most important thing: communication. You gotta know what you and your partner are comfortable with. This is especially true if you're getting into anything like rape fantasies or breath play. Don't be like Ana and Christian and just sign a contract without talking it through. Have the awkward conversation, it's worth it.
So, what does struggle sex look like? It's all about power play. This could mean roleplaying as a teacher and student, or it could mean having your partner pin you down while you try to "struggle" free. It could mean getting a little rough with some choking or hair pulling, or it could mean having sex in a semi-public place. The possibilities are endless.
And the best part? You can switch up the power dynamics whenever you want. One minute you're the boss, the next you're the one getting bossed around. It keeps things exciting and fresh.
Alright, so you wanna try struggle sex. Here's some tips to get you started:
First, safety first. Make sure you know how to use any toys you're playing with, and don't push your partner further than they're comfortable going. Have a safe word, and don't be afraid to use it.
Next, get creative with your surroundings. Are you having sex against a tree? Use that tree to your advantage. Are you in a hotel room? Use the headboard. Get inspired by what's around you.
And don't be afraid to get a little rough. Bite, scratch, choke, slap, pull hair...all that good stuff. Remember, it's called struggle sex for a reason.
Oh, and undress each other like you mean it. Rip those clothes off, don't just casually undress. Get into it.
Finally, get creative with your dirty talk. If you're the dom, tell your partner exactly what you're gonna do to them. Paint a picture with your words. If you're the sub, play up the fear and hesitation. Get into the headspace of it.
So, are you ready to give struggle sex a try? If so, go for it! If not, check out our other sex guides for some inspo. And don't forget to stock up on some fun toys to take it to the next level.