Okay, mama, let's get real. Having a baby is a total body shock. Diapers, sleepless nights, and just keeping a tiny human alive is a lot. And, oh yeah, your body just went through a wild ride of changes and childbirth (which, as amazing as it is, is kinda traumatic). So, feeling like a total bombshell again? That's gonna take some time.
First things first, chat with your doctor about when to get your groove back. Healing times vary, so don't rush it. Your body, mind, and doc will let you know when you're ready. This guide is all about easing you back into getting your sexy on (for more than just keeping a tiny human alive).
Healing 101
A UK study found it takes a whole year for new moms to feel "normal" again. Factors like episiotomies, breastfeeding, and how much rest you get impact your healing time. For the first six weeks, your uterus is shrinking, organs are moving, and there's just a lot going on. Sitz baths (basically, a warm sitz bath) help with healing and comfort.
Your pelvic area might need a bit more time before it's ready for action. If you have concerns, see a women's health physical therapist. They're like pelvic floor trainers and can get you back in shape fast.
Pelvic Power
Pregnancy and childbirth can weaken your pelvic muscles, leading to issues like incontinence. Pelvic floor exercises (aka Kegels) can help. Do them anywhere, but if you have bladder issues, try over the toilet or in the shower. Don't do them while peeing, or you might irritate your urinary tract. Just pretend you're stopping your pee flow. You can even stick a finger in your vagina to feel the muscles work.
We have all kinds of fun Kegel exercisers, like weights and beads, to make it more interesting. Pro tip: if you have a tilted uterus, get a single "ball" exerciser. Use it while washing dishes or shopping online for a hands-free workout!
Body Love
You might not recognize your post-baby body (hello, bigger feet and changed ear shape!). The media doesn't help with all the "get your body back" crap. Newsflash: you don't need to "get it back." Your body is strong and amazing. Steal some self-care time, and exercise for endorphins, not to be a "hot mom."
Round One
When you're ready, go slow. You might have discharge, scarring, and low libido. Empty your bladder and bowels, take a warm bath, and have lube ready. If it hurts, wait. But you can still have fun with oral sex, hands, and toys. Talk to your partner about your worries. They should be all about making you feel good.
Sex Positions
Deep penetration might hurt, so try positions with shallow penetration or where you're in control. On top with your feet on their calves gives you power. Spooning keeps things shallow, and your partner can play with your breasts and clit. Or, lay on your stomach and have them enter from behind. Your body sets the penetration limit, and they do all the work!
That's it! Take your time, have fun, and remember, your body is amazing.