Debunking Common Sex Myths for Woman

For most of us, our early understanding of sex came from a hodgepodge of movie scenes, school lessons, and awkward conversations with adults. As a result, much of what we think we know about sex is actually a mishmash of half-truths and myths. In other areas of life, a few harmless myths can be entertaining. But when it comes to sex and reproduction, even small misunderstandings can have big consequences like STIs, relationship stress, and unplanned pregnancies.

That's why we're here to debunk some common myths and misconceptions about sex. We hope this information will help you make informed decisions about sex, choose safer partners, and take better care of your reproductive health.

Myth #1: Sex is a great way to burn calories and lose weight

Despite what some might lead you to believe, having sex isn't a substitute for a good workout. While it's true that sex can get your heart rate up, most people don't have the stamina for the 30-minute sessions needed to burn a significant number of calories. Plus, the intensity of sex doesn't compare to more structured forms of exercise. So, if weight loss is your goal, don't rely on sex alone – it's just not that effective.

Instead, focus on regular exercise, a healthy diet, and possibly a weight loss plan tailored to your needs. And remember, sex can still be fun and enjoyable without the pressure of it being a weight loss tool.

Myth #2: You can't get pregnant if you're on your period

This is a common misconception, but it's simply not true. While it's less likely to happen, it is indeed possible to become pregnant during your period if you have unprotected sex. Here's why:

  • Ovulation: Even though you might think of your period as a time when you're not fertile, it actually happens right before your period starts. Your body releases an egg during ovulation, which can be fertilized if sperm is present.
  • Sperm Longevity: Sperm can survive inside your body for up to 5 days after ejaculation. If you have sex during your period and sperm is present when ovulation occurs, it could potentially fertilize an egg.

To avoid an unplanned pregnancy, always use a barrier method like a condom during sex, even if you're on your period.

Myth #3: All women orgasm from vaginal sex

Contrary to what some movies might lead you to believe, not all women experience orgasms from vaginal sex alone. In fact, studies suggest that only about 25% of women consistently reach orgasm during intercourse.

There are many reasons for this, including differences in anatomy, arousal levels, and the importance of mental stimulation. The good news is that there are many other ways to achieve orgasm, like clitoral stimulation, which is reliable for most women.

Myth #4: You can prevent pregnancy by standing up during sex

This is a funny myth, but it's based on a misunderstanding of how gravity works. Standing up during sex does not affect the trajectory of sperm – they're released in a stream that can reach the egg regardless of your position.

The only way to reliably prevent pregnancy is to use a barrier method like a condom or have sex during your fertile window if you're trying to get pregnant.

Myth #5: Condoms make sex less enjoyable

This is a common misconception fueled by outdated ideas about condoms. Modern condoms are designed to be comfortable, thin, and enhance sensation. They come in many different sizes, textures, and flavors to suit different preferences.

A study found that people rate sex with condoms as equally enjoyable as sex without, so don't let fear of reduced sensitivity stop you from using them. Condoms not only protect against STIs but also give you peace of mind to fully enjoy the moment.

Myth #6: You can't get pregnant from pre-cum

While pre-cum (a lubricant released by the penis before ejaculation) doesn't naturally contain sperm, it's possible for sperm to be present in pre-cum due to leaks from the urethra. A 2016 study found mobile sperm in the pre-cum of nearly 17% of male participants.

This means it's possible for sperm to be present during sex even if you donre't feel a man has ejaculated. To avoid an unplanned pregnancy, always use a barrier method like a condom, even if you're on birth control.

Myth #7: If you're aroused, you shouldn't need lubricant

Contrary to what some might think, arousal doesn't always lead to natural lubrication, especially for women. Many factors can affect your body's ability to produce lubrication, including hormonal changes, medications, and overall health.

If you're having sex and find that things are feeling dry, don't power through – it can be uncomfortable and even painful. Instead, use a water-based lubricant to make things more comfortable. There are many good options available that are easy to find and use.

Myth #8: You can rely on the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy

The withdrawal method, or pulling out before ejaculation, is a common but unreliable way to prevent pregnancy. The success of this method depends on perfect timing and technique, which is difficult to achieve consistently.

Studies show that the typical use failure rate of the withdrawal method is quite high, around 20-30%. If you're relying on the withdrawal method, consider using a backup method like condoms or birth control pills to lower your risk of an unplanned pregnancy.

Myth #9: It's the man's responsibility to provide condoms

While it's important for both partners to be responsible for their sexual and reproductive health, relying on the man to have condoms is an outdated way of thinking. Condoms are a shared responsibility – both partners should bring or have access to condoms to ensure safe sex.

Don't assume that your partner has condoms – take control of your own safety by carrying a few in your purse or wallet. This shows that you care about your health and are proactive about preventing STIs and unplanned pregnancies.

Myth #10: Oral and anal sex are safe alternatives to vaginal sex

While oral and anal sex can be pleasurable and exciting, they do come with their own risks. Both can still transmit STIs like chlamydia, herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, and HPV, even if you're using a condom.

If you're having oral, vaginal, or anal sex, be sure to get regular STI tests and use condoms or dental dams as much as possible. The safest sex is with a committed, monogamous partner who has been tested and is free of STIs.


Sexy Suzie is a sex education professional with over 20 years experience in the sexual wellness field.  No content posted herein should be construed as medical advice.