Big O, little death, climax, jet one's juice, sex spasm, blast off, come... sound familiar? These are just a few of the creative (and sometimes hilarious) ways people refer to the granddaddy of all sexual experiences - the orgasm. But what exactly is an orgasm? Believe it or not, the medical community is still trying to figure out the magic behind it. Heck, some healthcare experts didn't even accept that women could have orgasms until the 1970s! Given all the scientific advances in the last century, it's kind of surprising that pleasure wasn't higher on their to-do list.
So, what is an orgasm? The fancy definition is "the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure." Yeah, that sounds about as sexy as a textbook. But when you think about it, it makes sense that orgasms are hard to define - they can feel different for everyone. Some people have orgasms so intense they see stars, while others are still waiting for that elusive "big O."
No matter where you are on the orgasm spectrum, we're here to help you perfect your O-game and maybe even multiply your orgasms. With our tips and tricks, you'll be making that O-face all night long in no time.
So, can anyone have multiple orgasms? The short answer is yes, but it's a little more complicated for guys. See, a lot of people think orgasm = ejaculation for men, but that's not exactly how it works. The male orgasm actually happens between 2-7 seconds before ejaculation, when a man feels a rush of sensation in his penis and scrotum. Then, ejaculation hits and it's time for the refractory period (aka the "I need a minute" phase).
While it's basically impossible for men to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms in a row, it is possible to have non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms with some practice. Don't worry, guys, we've got tips for you too. Keep reading.
For women, the good news is that the body doesn't need a recovery period after orgasm, so it's usually easier to keep the good vibes going. That doesn't mean multiple orgasms will just magically happen, though. Ladies, you've still got to put in the work to join the multiple O club. But don't worry, we've got your back with some tips to get you there.
So, how can guys have those non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms? First, you've got to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Think of them as the bouncers of your bedroom - they control who gets in (aka, who gets to ejaculate). You can get those muscles in shape with kegel exercises. Just contract your PC muscle (the one that keeps you from peeing your pants) for 5-10 seconds, release, and repeat 10-15 times a few times a day.
Another trick is to mix up your positions to delay ejaculation. Try getting it on in a chair so you can stand up and pull out just in time. Standing up helps you tighten those pelvic floor muscles and have a non-ejaculatory orgasm instead.
Now, ladies, it's your turn. The first step to multiple orgasms is figuring out what gets you off when you're flying solo. Experiment with music, silky fabrics, candles, and sex toys to see what makes you melt. Then, practice teasing yourself - stroke your body, play with your nipples, and get those juices flowing. When you're nice and aroused, introduce some genital stimulation, but take it slow and try to delay that first orgasm as long as possible. The more you build up, the better those orgasms will be.
As soon as you've had an orgasm, start stimulating yourself again. If your clit is too sensitive, go back to those other spots that felt good. When you're ready, bring in a vibrator or clitoral stimulator to help you get there again. And to really take it over the top, throw in some kegels by contracting your pelvic floor muscles as you stimulate yourself. Once you've mastered the technique, bring your partner in on the fun.
So, are you ready to take your orgasms to the next level? With a little practice and patience, you can be having the most epic orgasms of your life in no time. Happy O-hunting!